Am I true to myself?

am-i-true-to-myself

I have to live with myself, and so

I want to be fit for myself to know,

I want to be able, as days go by,

Always look myself straight in the eye;

I don’t want to stand, with the setting sun,

And hate myself for things I have done/

I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf

A lot of secrets about myself,

And fool myself, as I come and go,

Into thinking that nobody else will know.

The kind of man I really am;

I don’t want to dress up myself on sham.

I want to go out with my head erect,

I want to deserve all men’s respect;

But here in the struggle for fame and pelf

I want to be able to like myself.

I don’t want to look at myself and know

That I am bluster and bluff and empty show.

I can never hide myself from me;

I see what other may never see;

I know what others may never know,

I never can fool myself and so,

Whatever happens, I want to be

Self-respecting and conscience free.

  • A poem by Edgar Guest

3 Ps of Life

3-ps-of-life

Life is full of surprises and we can live our lives with either ‘Apprehension’ or ‘Anticipation’. Apprehension leads to fear, distress, doubt, anxiety and even depression and on the other hand, anticipation leads to excitement, expansion, expression, belief and enthusiasm. Well, it takes knowledge and wisdom to anticipate and anyone can gain it with the practice of 3 Ps of life.

1 – Persistence

As the word says, persistence can make things happen, it is one such force on earth that can make even water cut the rock. Persistence helped builds spaceships, took a failure towards success and help made Thomas Edison build a light bulb too. Persistence of continuing the same activity also build habits and habits are all that we are made of. It is wise to decide on an activity or a goal to work on and then keep persistently working on it. The plan may change but success comes to those who don’t change their destination and keep moving persistently, bit by bit and day by day.

2 – Patience

Great things come out of patience. God has a unique way of gifting fruits to those who have patience. It takes patience to wait for the crop to develop, it takes patience to build a habit and it takes patience to build a character. Although, patience doesn’t mean, keep waiting for something you wish to happen without putting your effort into it. It simply means, while trying, be patient to embrace the results. It is only human to be impatient but faith in God will help all of us to be patient.

3 – Positivity

Life means ‘Growth’ and, of course, we are talking about a positive growth. See around you, we are all surrounded by mostly a negative environment. It is a lifelong struggle to remain positive. Life is a uphill task and negativity only drags us down. Ever wondered how we dread to loose a negative place or a person at the very first instance we get a chance and on the other hand we get drifted towards the positive person or a place. This is the reason we often visit religious places to find some positive energy (life promoting energy). All this suggests us to remain positive or have a positive mental attitude in our lives so as to become one of the life promoting factors with whom everyone wants to associate and grow with.

  • Gurdeep Singh

Decision to act: 5-step plan

decision

It is a wondrous thing that the decision to act releases energy in the personality. For the days on, a person may drift alone without much energy, have no particular sense of direction and having no will to change. Then something happens to alter the pattern and may be, very simple and consequential in itself, but it stabs awake, it alarms and disturbs, in a flash, it gives a vivid picture of oneself and it passes. THE RESULT IS DECISION, sharp, definitive decision and in the wake of decision, yes, even as the path of decision itself, energy is released. The act of decision sweeps all before it and life of an individual may be changed forever. Once you decide to take decision, to act, you begin to access power within you that will increase and enhance your personal power.

Decision to act is one of the easiest and also the most difficult part. Most of us wish for things to happen and are even convinced with the idea of the same, but deciding, sometimes take the entire lifetime. Below are the five steps that will help you act on your decision to act:

1 – Realize and accept

The first and often the most difficult part of decision making, is realization and acceptance of the fact that something needs to be done in this situation. Things do happen around us and within us, but most of the time we take it for granted and keep living with it (sometimes, even throughout our lives). Things starts getting worse and our adapting nature keeps adjusting to the ever-worsening situation, and there comes a time when you yell inside you – ‘Enough is enough’, that very moment is the moment of realization. This is the time to accept the fact with courage and time to decide (remember, this is the time to decide only, don’t even think for a fraction of a second how to act upon it, as your current state of mind will not be able to show the path of action). Just decide and don’t just wish, as wish is situational but decision is permanent.

2 – Is procrastination helping or hurting you?

The very nature of humans is to get into as much comfort as possible, this is the root cause of all the problems of life. Even if we know that we need to act on a decision the we made, we keep procrastinating to act upon it. This is the time to ask ourselves a question (if required, again and again and if possible post it on the wall of your room) – ‘Is procrastination helping or hurting me?’

3 – What is blocking you?

Procrastination, of course won’t be helping you in most of the cases, so it is time to ask another useful question to yourself – What is blocking me? Why don’t I have the courage to face it? Most of the times the answer to this will be ‘FEAR’, fear of failure, fear of approval by others, fear of feeling foolish, etc. But most of the times fear turns out to be – False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR). Remember, if you are fearing failure it is only because one reason – ‘What will people say?’ Well, let me tell you one thing, 80% of the people don’t care and the remaining 20% are glad that you failed. So rather than looking for the blocks, look for the ways.

4 – Worst case scenario

The best way to act on your decision is to consider the worst-case scenario. This will give you a perspective and will prepare you for the worst that can happen, at least nothing beyond can happen. Acceptance of the situation in your mind will free your mental creative faculties, that will help you find effective ways to act. This step is very important, as most of the fears will shed and will give you the strength to act.

5 – The feeling after acting

We are emotional beings and our activities are rooted from our emotional state. We either act to avoid pain or to gain pleasure, therefore the feeling associated with our actions is very important. The feeling of ease and pleasure will motivate us to act and this is the reason why it is very important to know how you are going to feel after acting on your decision. The feeling of pleasure will motivate you to act on your decision.

Whenever you are bewildered by the question, whether to act on your decision or not, do consider this 5-step formula to help you out.

  • Gurdeep Singh

Rejection is a MYTH

rejection

Sales professionals will really be able to appreciate the meaning of the word ‘REJECTION’. It really sounds like a nightmare to be rejected in the marketplace. If we just separate the feeling associated with the term ‘Rejection’ we will be able to closely analyze the situation which led to rejection.

Before we go further, let me tell you one thing (always remember) – “It was the idea that you presented, that was rejected and NOT YOU”. Always consider rejection at a logical level and never take it personal. Remember ‘Rejections’ are a part of our progress, rejections aligns us with the kind of person we need to become in order to be successful. If we really understand the cause of rejection then we will learn from it and will improve in our very next approach, and perhaps we again might get rejected but this time the cause may be different (time to learn another lesson).

Rejection is just an incidence which will be forgotten by both you and the other person/institution that rejected you. You are rejected as a person only when you stop learning from the rejections and stop improving yourself. Never give up, situations come to us temporarily to teach us a lesson, to help us improve, always be as flexible as a grass blade to adapt in any situation and move on.

Colonel Sanders (founder of KFC) was rejected 1009 times before he heard his first ‘yes’. He was a great example of how one can take ‘Rejection’ in a positive manner and move on to create a huge success. Rejections can be handled by having a deep sense of perseverance, dedication, and ambition along with hard work.

I would suggest you to go out and face as many rejections as you can and fail your way towards success.

  • Gurdeep Singh

Be a role model to your child

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. This is a universal principle that is applicable even to human beings and not only the things. Our children do exactly what we do and not what we say them to do. They are our exact reflection, therefore watch your actions. It is easy to control and amend our conscious actions (needs lots of conscious efforts) but what about the actions that arise from our subconscious mind? Well, it is easy to notice them if we keep our minds wide open and receptive to the feedback even from a young child and not taking it offensively (your ego is very expensive, kindly don’t loose it!). Remember, we as parents, can be the best role models for our children and their failure or success actually reflects our failure or success, since they are nothing but our mirror images. If we want them to get early in the morning then we have to get up first, if we want them to speak truth then we must see to it that we demonstrate the same at all the times. My God, our children are very clever, they notice even a small variation in our actions and try to imitate it. We too are humans and at times we too can be wrong, but rather than justifying our wrong actions it is wise to accept our mistake and promise our child that it will never happen again (just as we expect our child to do in that situation) and see to it that it never happens again.
Our small efforts on the day today basis will make us a hero in the eyes of our child and will prompt them to follow the same (at which they are good at, copying). So, be a reason for your child’s action that makes them proud and us too.
I’m sure you are following the same principles and will be a hero of your child (as my parents are).

– Gurdeep Singh

The important things in life

JarA philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

Is Measuring Soft-Skills Training Really Possible?

“Is measuring “soft-skills” really possible?” The question is as ambiguous and vague as many training programs bearing the same name. For many a senior manager, the concept of “soft-skills” training conjures images of the Sunday morning infomercial and/or “motivational” seminar that instill participants with eight hours of inspiration, but offer few reusable tools to be applied on the job or add value to the company who’s paying for it. In the IT world, the outcomes can be readily quantified, returns are often immediate and the abatement costs are so frightening that the implicit value of these programs is intuitive at nearly every level of the organization. How can soft-skills training, whose outcomes are often intangible, returns are gradual or deferred and abatement costs present few immediate threats possibly achieve the same relevance as its IT counterpart? The answer lies quantifying and measuring the returns of soft-skills programs, as well as translating their benefit into the universal language of business, dollars & cents.

What are “Soft-Skills”?

The very term “soft-skills” is often generically applied to anything that is “non-IT”. The true irony is that the term is often used to classify subjects that are more quantifiable or mathematical than many IT topics. The following table classifies soft-skills into five broad categories, Behavioral Development, Professional

Development, Company Specific, Compliance, and Job/Task Specific.

Category

Description

Examples

Behavioral Development

These programs are designed to improve or enhance the underlyingsocial behaviors and influencingcapabilities of the participants.

•   LeadershipDevelopment

•   Teamwork

•   Coaching Employees

•   Change Management

Professional

Development

These programs may be required for an individual to obtain or maintain a professionalcertification or accreditation.

•   Project Management

•   Professional

•   Certified Public Accountant

•   Legal

Company Specific

These programs feature company specific information, policies and procedures.

•   Company Human Resources

•   Policies & Procedures

•   Employee Orientation

Compliance

These programs are designed to help employers become legally compliant with various legislated safety or work environmentstandards.

•   Sexual Harassment

•   Office Ergonomics

•   Lockout/Tag out

Job/Task Specific

These programs relate to the actual performanceof a specific task or job function that is a fundamental component of the employee’s responsibilities.

•   Entering purchase orders

•   Responding to a customer call or inquiry

•   Assembling product

Who Needs Soft-Skills Training?

Nearly every employee needs some level of training to perform their job, develop competencies, or understand the risks and/or regulations of their work environment. The following matrix provides a simple overview of various soft-skills topics versus job roles. This matrix is far from an exhaustive training map, but is included in this document to provide a brief context for the discussion.

Potential Student Soft-Skill Categories:

Potential Student

Soft-Skill Categories

Job Role

Example

Behavioral

Development

Professional

Development

Company Specific

Compliance

Job/Task

Specific

Executive

Vice

President

X

X

X

X

 

Middle

Management

Department

Manager

X

X

X

X

 

Supervisory

Team

Leader

X

X

X

X

X

Individual

Contributor

Programmer

 

X

X

X

X

Professional

Accountant

 

X

X

X

X

Why Measure Soft-Skills Training?

As noted earlier, the outcomes and benefits of soft-skills training tend to be mildly intuitive and/or tangible. This being the case, the training champion is charged with task of validating the program’s value. There are three basic questions that organizations need to ask in assessing a program’s value.

Is the training effective in transferring the knowledge and competency as intended?

Capturing empirical evidence that verifies the student has enhanced their competencies and/or skills substantiates the effectiveness of the program. Organizations funding these programs demand verification there has been a tangible outcome of training. Measuring the outcome of training can validate that a transfer of knowledge has occurred.

Are the outcomes of training relevant to the needs of the organization?

The outcomes of training need to be valued by the organization for the program to remain viable. Measuring the outcomes of training illustrates a quantifiable relationship between the program and the greater needs or values of the organization.

Are the costs of the program worth the competencies obtained?

Specifically, there is a need to quantify both the results of the training and the delivery costs (direct & indirect) to ensure that the program is yielding a favorable return to the organization. It is virtually impossible to determine this return without measuring the outcome of training.

Why do Organizations Implement Soft-Skills Training Programs?

In order to develop effective measures of soft-skills training, it is important to understand some of the drivers for implementing these programs in the first place.

  • Employee & Management Development. Many organizations implement Behavioral and Professional Development programs to foster the ongoing career growth and maturation of their employees. Organizations may identify key values and/or competencies that they want to foster within their management team (or other employees). An organization may identify customer-focus, ethics, perseverance, creativity and problem solving as some key competencies they would like build. Using these competencies, the organization would then build a training program to instill the values within their participants.
  • Certification of Employees. Some organizations may require their employees to obtain specific certifications to hold their positions. For example, a defense contractor may require that it’s project managers obtain their Project Management Professional® certification before they are allowed to manage products autonomously. To achieve this goal, the company would develop a Project Management Professional® training program to prepare their employees to sit for the exam.
  • Legal/Regulatory. In instances where various safety regulations mandate some level of training on a particular subject, organizations may implement a program to become compliant with the mandates. Organizations may develop training on various workplace hazards or employee rights to raise awareness. Sexual Harassment training is an example of Legal/Regulatory training. Organizations implement these programs to meet regulations, build awareness and mitigate their risk of employee suit.
  • Productivity & Competency. In cases where an employee needs to know a specific procedure or process to perform their job, an organization may implement a training program. Product training is a prime example of this. In order for a salesperson to sell their product, they need to know the various features and attributes of the product, as well as competing products. An organization may implement a training program to build product expertise with the salesperson.
  • Communicate Policies & Procedures. An organization may also build a training program to relay various policies and procedures to their employees. This is the function of many employee orientation programs.

Developing Objectives for Soft-Skills Training Programs

To measure the outcomes of a soft-skills program it is critical to have objectives as benchmarks. In the absence of clear objectives for the program, the benefit to the organization is reduced to the anecdotal comments and perceptions of the participants. This has the potential to undermine the program. If the success of the program is gauged only on the basis of student comments, there may be little measurable data to report on. Consequently, the value of the program becomes less obvious. If there are specific and quantifiable objectives for implementing the program in the first place, there will be meaningful parameters for measuring the program later on. The following bullets are some guidelines for developing objectives for soft-skills programs.

  •  Strategically Relevant. The objectives for a soft-skills program should be strategically relevant and grounded in the ultimate values & mission of the organization it serves. For example, a software development company, whose goal is to produce custom applications for its clients, would probably not implement an electrical safety program, since it is may not be relevant to their overall business.
  • Outcome Focused. The objectives for the program should be focused on the end-result of training. A focused objective might relate to a specific certification that will be obtained after training. In the case of a compliance subject, the focus of the objective may be to comply with a specific labor standard. A less effective objective would focus simply on the training program itself, rather than the outcome. For example, “to have a best-in-class leadership development program”, does not address underlying need for the program in the first place.
  • Measurable. The program’s objectives should have some quantifiable attributes. If the objective for the program is to certify the participants in a particular discipline, there should be a target certification rate that program strives to maintain. (90% of the program participants will obtain their Project Management Professional® certification) This creates a standard to measure the program’s performance by.
  • Achievable. The objectives of the program should be something that is realistically attainable through training. Professional certifications may be a realistic outcome of a company sponsored training program, but a doctorate in astrophysics is probably not.
  •  Cost Centric. The objectives for a soft-skills program should address the delivery and opportunity costs of training. These costs should include the direct costs of conducting the training (courseware, administration, LMS, learning services, etc…) as well as the indirect costs of the program (labor costs of having employees in training, opportunity costs of having employees in training rather than on the job).
  • Time Bound. The objectives should also include some type of timeline or schedule for achieving the outcome. (90% of the program participants will obtain their XYZ certification within the first 6 months of the program)

Techniques for Measuring Soft-Skills Training

Perhaps the most widely adopted framework for assessing training is the Kirkpatrick model. The Kirkpatrick model breaks assessment techniques into four primary levels. Developed in the 1950s, the Kirkpatrick model was later modified by Phillips, Pulliam-Phillips and Zuniga1, who added a fifth level. The following table defines each level and provides examples of the various techniques.

Category

Description

Examples

Behavioral Development

These programs are designed to improve or enhance the underlyingsocial behaviors and influencingcapabilities of the participants.

•   LeadershipDevelopment

•   Teamwork

•   Coaching Employees

•   Change Management

Professional

Development

These programs may be required for an individual to obtain or maintain a professionalcertification or accreditation.

•   Project Management

•   Professional

•   Certified Public Accountant

•   Legal

Company Specific

These programs feature company specific information, policies and procedures.

•   Company Human Resources

•   Policies & Procedures

•   Employee Orientation

Compliance

These programs are designed to help employers become legally compliant with various legislated safety or work environmentstandards.

•   Sexual Harassment

•   Office Ergonomics

•   Lockout/Tag out

Job/Task Specific

These programs relate to the actual performanceof a specific task or job function that is a fundamental component of the employee’s responsibilities.

•   Entering purchase orders

•   Responding to a customer call or inquiry

•   Assembling product